Twenty two

I stupidly thought, after the success of Oli's birthday, that our wedding anniversary wouldn't be that bad. I thought, naively, that I would sail through it and be happy for the 21 years and nine months of marital bliss (almost all of the time) that we shared, but no. Grief, as I am finding out, is not the consistent entity that I thought it would be. It is fickle and comes and goes as it pleases. It hides around corners, waiting to ambush you just when you least exp

Jan 243 min read

January.... still.

I'm on the eve of another first. Tomorrow, 24th January, will be Oli and my wedding anniversary. 22 years... if you can count the last three months. And I'm counting them. I have felt no less of being Oli's wife these last few months than in the 21 years and 9 months before that, so I will be 'celebrating' the fact that I, at least, have been married for 22 years. I miss him. I think of him constantly. He is never out of my head - from the moment I wake up to when

Jan 233 min read

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Twenty two

I stupidly thought, after the success of Oli's birthday, that our wedding anniversary wouldn't be that bad. I thought, naively, that I would sail through it and be happy for the 21 years and nine months of marital bliss (almost all of the time) that we shared, but no. Grief, as I am finding out, is not the consistent entity that I thought it would be. It is fickle and comes and goes as it pleases. It hides around corners, waiting to ambush you just when you least exp

Jan 243 min read

January.... still.

I'm on the eve of another first. Tomorrow, 24th January, will be Oli and my wedding anniversary. 22 years... if you can count the last three months. And I'm counting them. I have felt no less of being Oli's wife these last few months than in the 21 years and 9 months before that, so I will be 'celebrating' the fact that I, at least, have been married for 22 years. I miss him. I think of him constantly. He is never out of my head - from the moment I wake up to when

Jan 233 min read

Finally!! Bloody dolphins!

It's been a good week, all in all. The day after Oli's birthday, two friends came to spend some time with me. These girls I have known for a very long time.. one since I was 5 (that's fifty years... although, catch me on a more devious day and I'll tell you it's 40 years) and the other since I was 15 or so. There is something very comforting about old friends such as these, especially ones that you spent your informative years with.. they've seen every side of you, expe

Jan 193 min read

Later that day...

So.. all in all, it's been a good day. I've been strong and positive.. but there is a bit of a rub. I love this blog and it makes me feel so much better once I've put the contents of my brain on this site but by doing so, I put my life and feelings online.. that makes it sound really dramatic and it is totally not so.. I put my life online to those who want to read it... and there's not that many of you, which lowers the exposure massively! There is a handful of people

Jan 144 min read

Go West!!!

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Hello. I'm Lara. 55 year old, very recently widowed woman with a little baggage but not much. Bloody love crisps and wine.... and sweets.. but equally love rowing and yoga which helps.

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